Woman AND Mother. Where Does One Start and the Other One Begin?
It becomes challenging to separate yourself from your mother role, particularly when you’ve been a stay at home mother, you’ve been quite isolated from friends and other social gatherings, you’ve not been encouraged or supported to get in contact with yourself to spend time alone or to do something other than caring for your baby.
The Deep Rite of Passage of Matrescence
We have replaced what should be a deeply spiritual, emotional and supporting ritual with consumerism. We feel that if we get the right pram, the right clothes and baby wearer, we will be prepared. If we throw a baby shower and buy all the possible things for the coming baby, then it is all right, that means we will be good mothers.
Why Understanding Matrescence Helps Your Parenting
A major part of matrescence is the birth of a new you. I bet nobody told you when you had your routine check ups in pregnancy or when you walked the maternity doors: Hey, you’re about to birth not just a baby, but also a new you. That takes time and you’re allowed to find it hard. You need all the support you can get.
Matrescence 101
A short intro to a complex transformation: Matrescence. What is it? Becoming a mother is a culturally unsupported fact and the huge shift a mothergoes through goes by unnoticed, kept quiet. Putting a name to this very real rite of passage is the first step to finding meaning in your experience, mama.